Its not necessary that only those people who wish ill for you do bad things for you the same way it is also not necessary that those people whom you trust the most will not do bad things for you. Recently i came across the concept of "being forgiving". As i understand, Forgiving is way to above Revenge, Hate, Vengeance or ill will. When someone you love does not live up to your expectations or hurt you unknowingly or knowingly its totally in your hands whether to hurt them back or keep grudges or distance yourself from them or TO FORGIVE THEM.
Mahatma Gandhi says "Weak can never forgive, forgiveness is an attribute of the strong". Its not that you have to forgive a person after he begs for forgiveness. Forgiveness is always for you and not for them.
As Osho very rightly says,
"Forgiveness simply means you accept the person as he is, you still love him the way he is. Forgiveness means that you don’t judge him, that you are non-judgmental. But ordinarily we think forgiveness means you know that he has done wrong, still you forgive him. First you judge and then you forgive. Your forgiveness is false. Real forgiveness has no judgment. It never says, “No, you have done wrong, but still I forgive you.” It simply accepts the person as he is. There is no grudge, no complaint, no grumbling. There is no question really of forgiving because there is no anger in the first place."
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| "Forgiving is doing a favor on yourself and not others" |
I believe that Universe or god or almighty whatever you believe in, has funny ways to teach things. He gives you a situation and leaves the interpretation upon you. Its you who have to decide how you want to react upon such things or whether u wanna at all react upon it or not. Many times in life there comes a stage where the person whom you love the most, whom u care about the most, whom u trust the most does something which tears you apart. it looks extremely difficult to get over it and forgiving that person seems out of question but we have to remember one thing forever, which is, that he is the same person with whom you have shared some amazing, breath taking and never ending moments. He is the same person who meant so much to you that you actually let that person do the things which he did. So again there comes a question do i really need to take revenge or keep grudges for the same person whom i once loved? That is when "being forgiving" helps the most. Its not that you don't remember the things he did to you but you just accept that person as he is and love them anyways.
Remember that one person whom you thought who will never hurt you but who has proved you wrong, think about the amazing moments you had shared together and later on think about things he did to you because of which you were hurt. Still having the same feelings which you had back then makes you feel vulnerable, makes you waste your time and energy for something you don't feel good about but if you forgive the same person now makes you feel strong, positive and it channelize your energy towards Love and selflessness.
TODAY, forgive that one person whom you hated the most or who had hurt you the most, forgiving doesnt mean you need to go and tell that person "hey even though u did so many bad things to me, i forgive you" you just have to forgive him for yourself because at the end of the day its you who needs a life which is filled with Love, Joy, Happiness & Peace.
-Whatever happens, Happens for good.
keep smiling, stay rocking
